PRESENTING ISSUE
There was a man who was a Sunday School teacher and on his church board who struggled with pornography. He would drive out of town, buy porn and then take it back to his garage where he would fantasize and masturbate. Then, in a fit of guilt, he would burn the porn in a "holy ritual" to get rid of porn's effects. He felt that he had his "addiction" under control because God revealed to him about how to perform this "holy ritual" so that he could still be a "man of God."
One nite, however, his "holy ritual" did not seem to remove his guilt. So, in his fervor, he drove around and ended up at a seedy establishment that promised sexual release. He went into this one room, by himself, where he was to stick a certain part of his anatomy into a hole in the curtain by the wall to be fellated. He imagined a young, beautiful woman on the other side and felt quite satisfied. However, as he was getting dressed, he saw a young man slipping out the side. He was struck with the thought, "what if that was the person and it really wasn't a young, beautiful woman?" The man felt totally devastated and decided that he needed to get professional help because he has a "pornography addiction."
NOTES His story is consistent with most men's stories. Most men are introduced to pornography by finding someone's stash, typically a father, uncle or brother.
He found his father's stash in the garage when he was young boy. It was "just car magazines" but he found himself attracted to the women who posed with these cars and was turned on by their provocative poses. As he developed his interest in his own sexuality, he became more interested in soft-core pornography, then harder pornography. He has kept his sexual interests a secret since finding his father's car magazines. He was only interested in adult, heterosexual pornography.
He has only had penile-vaginal intercourse (PVI) with his spouse of 30+ years. He states that their sexual relationship has been non-existent for more than three years. Before his marriage, he had only two sexual relationships. These two prior relationships involved heavy petting and fellatio but did not include PVI or penile-anal intercourse (PAI).
He doesn't have any children.
MENTAL STATUS EXAMINATION
Affect: Depressed Appearance: appropriate to age, season, occupation Mood: Dysphoric
Mild psychomotor agitation present
No apparent psychotic phenomena
No noticeable body odor
Denies suicidal/homicidal ideation and intent
Appears to be of average intelligence Judgement and insight appears to be adequate
Speech: Fluid, no idiosyncratic features noted
Sleep: Early morning awakening, insomnia for last 3 years
INITIAL DIAGNOSES
312.89 Other specified impulse control disorder (pornography use causing distress)
780.52 Insomnia disorder, persistent
V61.10 Relationship distress with spouse
R/O: Depressive disorder, anxiety disorder
TREATMENT PLAN
Explore fictions related to pornography usage
Establish consistent sleep-wake schedule
Improve sexual relationship with current partner
Understand what happened around 3 years ago
COURSE OF TREATMENT (approx 15 sessions)
The client came to a better understanding of his pornography use which declined to a less distressing frequency, no longer engaging in "holy rituals"
His spouse accepted couples counseling (referred to another counselor for couple's counseling)
His physician placed him on an SSRI to treat his anxiety and depression.
His insomnia lessened and he no longer had early morning awakening.
The client came to a better understanding of being a Sunday School teacher and church board member (both which occurred about 3 years prior to seeking treatment) and how that increased his anxiety & depresson of being "addicted to pornography"
Client's sexual relationship did not improve with spouse
DISCHARGE DIAGNOSES
300.4 Persistent Depressive Disorder with anxious distress
V61.10 Relationship distress with spouse
Interesting case. I would want to dive further into why him and his wife are not sexual intimate and like you said what happened 3 years ago for that to stop.
This is my first blog post, I'm trying to figure out how this works :)